10 Ways We Keep Ourselves Depressed Without Realizing It (And How To Change)

About this Video

• Video Title: 10 Ways We Keep Ourselves Depressed Without Realizing It (And How To Change)
• Channel: Heidi Priebe
• Speakers: Heidi Priebe
• Duration: 00:32:36

Introduction

This video explores common, often unconscious, behaviors that perpetuate depression and offers strategies for overcoming them. Heidi Priebe, drawing from personal experience and NLP principles, focuses on reconnecting with authentic emotions rather than avoiding difficult feelings.

Key Takeaways

1. Identifying Self-Perpetuating Behaviors: The video uses an exercise where you imagine outsourcing your depression to understand the daily actions, thoughts, and narratives that maintain it.
2. Avoiding Perfect Future Planning: Instead of focusing on a perfect future to avoid pain, stay present with current feelings and accept uncertainty. Loss and grief offer valuable lessons for building a meaningful future.
3. Adjusting Expectations: Don't hold yourself to the same standards during periods of depression as during times of thriving. Embrace a "best worst version" approach, focusing on bare minimum survival strategies.
4. Connecting Inner and Outer Worlds: Avoid dismissing depression as random; instead, use an "ideals audit" to examine if values and goals are still aligned with your current life.
5. Moving Past Past Hurts: Don't wait for others to fix your feelings; process hurt, mourn losses, and adjust expectations for future relationships.
6. Embracing Joy: Don't punish yourself for feeling joy; allow yourself to experience positive emotions, even seemingly unearned ones, to create momentum.
7. Crowding Out Bad Habits: Focus on adding positive behaviors rather than solely eliminating negative ones. This creates a positive feedback loop.
8. Showing Up, Imperfectly: Don't wait to be "perfectly polished" before engaging in life; putting your best foot forward, even imperfectly, creates mirrors of your potential and facilitates growth.
9. Increasing Luck Surface Area: Don't expect single actions to solve everything; increase your "luck surface area" by taking multiple steps toward desired outcomes.
10. Embracing Embarrassment: Embrace awkwardness and missteps as part of growth; this demonstrates that self-alignment is prioritized over ego.
11. Sharing Your Journey: Openly communicate your struggles and aspirations to others; this fosters connection and support.