Being Human 101: When Self-Care Feels Like a Chore

About this video

• Video Title: Being Human 101: When Self-Care Feels Like a Chore
• Channel: Certified Life Coach Institute
• Speakers: Jen, Anthony, Brooke
• Duration: 1:03:18

Overview

This video discusses the concept of self-care, differentiating it from self-maintenance and self-indulgence. The speakers explore why self-care can feel like a chore, how it might be perceived differently across genders, and the challenges individuals face in prioritizing it. They also touch upon how these concepts can be integrated into life coaching practices to help clients identify and implement genuine self-care strategies.

Key takeaways

• Defining Self-Care: Self-care is distinct from self-maintenance (necessary daily tasks for survival) and self-indulgence (gratifying oneself regardless of cost). True self-care involves nurturing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
• Barriers to Self-Care: Common reasons for neglecting self-care include lack of time, stress, the perception of it being selfish, negative gender stereotypes, apathy, and confusing it with self-indulgence.
• Gendered Perceptions: Traditionally feminine activities like getting nails done are often labeled as self-care, while activities men engage in (like fishing or solitary reading) may serve the same purpose but aren't recognized as such. Societal conditioning can make men less inclined to prioritize self-care.
• Self-Care vs. Self-Indulgence: Self-care involves making healthy choices for long-term well-being, even if it requires extra effort or cost. Self-indulgence is about immediate pleasure without considering the consequences, like smoking or excessive drinking.
• Coaching Applications: In coaching, it's crucial to help clients define self-care for themselves rather than imposing external definitions. Exploring what "a you that isn't tired" looks like, or using scaling questions, can open dialogue and lead to personalized strategies.
• Self-Care as a Chore: Even with time and resources, self-care can feel like a chore if it's not enjoyable or doesn't provide immediate gratification. This is especially true for tasks that don't directly impact others.
• Making Self-Care Actionable: Strategies for incorporating self-care include setting alarms, focusing on activities that track progress (like strength training over walking), and making small, consistent efforts rather than overwhelming ones.