Being Human: "Did I Say Too Much?" Navigating Oversharing and Vulnerability Hangovers

About this video

• Video Title: Being Human: "Did I Say Too Much?" Navigating Oversharing and Vulnerability Hangovers
• Channel: Certified Life Coach Institute
• Speakers: Jen, Brooke, Lisa, Jerome, Anthony
• Duration: 54:49

Overview

This video discusses the phenomenon of oversharing and the resulting "vulnerability hangovers." The speakers explore the reasons behind oversharing, the impact it has on relationships, and how it manifests in both personal and professional contexts, particularly in life coaching. They also share strategies for managing and recovering from these experiences.

Key takeaways

• Oversharing as a Coping Mechanism: People may overshare due to discomfort, a desire to fill silence, or a feeling of loneliness, often as an attempt to connect with others.
• Vulnerability Hangovers: These are the feelings of embarrassment, shame, or regret that follow oversharing, especially when the sharing is not well-received or leads to negative self-judgment.
• Impact on Relationships: Oversharing can strain relationships if the other person is not receptive or if the shared information is misinterpreted, as seen in Jen's experience with her mother-in-law.
• The Role of the Listener: The recipient's reaction significantly influences whether oversharing leads to a vulnerability hangover. A receptive and open listener can mitigate these negative feelings.
• Coaching Context: In life coaching, oversharing can occur when clients are emotional or unfocused. Coaches must handle these moments with sensitivity, ensuring safety and not leading with their own agendas.
• Coach Vulnerability: Coaches also experience vulnerability when they don't know all the answers or when they share their own experiences to connect, emphasizing the importance of not having all the answers as a skill.
• Resetting After Oversharing: Strategies for recovering from a vulnerability hangover include exercise, talking to trusted individuals, listening to music, journaling, and self-compassion.