Episodio 347 - L’ego si oppone al cambiamento con i sensi di colpa

About this Video

• Video Title: Episodio 347 - L’ego si oppone al cambiamento con i sensi di colpa
• Channel: Antonio Quaglietta
• Speakers: Antonio Quaglietta, Fabiola (mentioned), Stefano (mentioned), Martina (mentioned), Raffaella Pellegrini (mentioned)
• Duration: 00:16:50

Introduction

This video is a live-streamed episode of "Storie di vita che insegnano a vivere" (Stories of life that teach you how to live). Antonio Quaglietta shares an update on Fabiola, a past guest who struggled with fear of expressing herself. He discusses how Fabiola overcame her fear and then how her ego used guilt to try and pull her back into old patterns of behavior. The episode also touches upon how parents sometimes use guilt to control their children.

Key Takeaways

• Fabiola's Journey: Fabiola initially feared expressing herself at work for fear of reprisal. Through a process of confronting her fears and visualizing potential outcomes, she realized that her fears were exaggerated.
• The Ego's Resistance: Once Fabiola started expressing herself more freely, her ego attempted to pull her back using guilt. The ego used phrases like "You're exaggerating," "You're being mean," and "You're selfish" to manipulate her.
• Guilt as a Control Mechanism: The use of guilt to manipulate and control behavior is a common dynamic, seen both in adult relationships and in the parent-child relationship.
• Confronting Internal and External Realities: To overcome the ego's attempts to instill guilt, Fabiola is tasked with comparing her internal feelings with the external reality. This helps her determine if the guilt is justified or merely an attempt to maintain the status quo.
• Healthy Selfishness: The video suggests that expressing one's needs ("healthy egoism") isn't inherently negative, and that prioritizing personal well-being doesn't equate to selfishness.