About this Video

• Video Title: How To Never Get Angry Again (Miyamoto Musashi)
• Channel: Stoic Philosophy Insights
• Speakers: Narrator
• Duration: 00:09:01

Introduction

This video explores Miyamoto Musashi's approach to eliminating anger, drawing parallels between his mastery of swordsmanship and emotional control. The video argues that anger is a weakness, making one predictable and easily manipulated, and offers Musashi's methods for overcoming it.

Key Takeaways

1. Anger as a Weakness: The video posits that anger is not a strength but a vulnerability, making individuals predictable and controllable. Musashi's success in duels stemmed from his emotional detachment.

2. Musashi's Approach: Musashi's strategy involved training himself to be immune to provocation, maintaining composure even in life-or-death situations. He achieved this through practices like voluntary hardship and meditation on death.

3. The Psychology of the Blade: The video uses the metaphor of a blade to illustrate the mind's sharpness. Emotional control is crucial for maintaining mental clarity and effectiveness, just as keeping a blade sharp is crucial for a swordsman.

4. Ego as the Root of Anger: The video identifies ego as the underlying cause of anger. By detaching oneself from ego, a person becomes less susceptible to anger and other negative emotions.

5. Musashi's Training: Musashi's training involved voluntary hardship (e.g., sleeping outside, minimal food, avoiding comfort) to strengthen his mind and reduce susceptibility to anger. He also practiced stillness and meditation on death to cultivate emotional control.

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Based on the video transcript about Miyamoto Musashi's approach to anger, here are some practical steps you can take to manage your anger:

1. Identify Your Triggers: Reflect on situations that typically make you angry. Are they related to specific people, events, or perceived injustices? Keeping a journal can help. (This addresses point 4 in Key Takeaways)

2. Pause and Observe: When you feel anger rising, consciously pause your reaction. Instead of immediately lashing out, take deep breaths and observe your feelings without judgment. This creates space between the trigger and your response. (This relates to Musashi's training in stillness and "no reaction" strategy)

3. Detach from Ego: Ask yourself: Is my anger rooted in a perceived threat to my pride, reputation, or sense of self-worth? Recognizing ego's role can help you separate your feelings from objective reality. (This relates to point 6 in the Key Takeaways)

4. Practice Voluntary Hardship: Identify one small comfort you can eliminate temporarily. This could be something like reducing social media usage, cutting out sugar, taking cold showers, or foregoing a daily indulgence. This builds mental resilience and reduces susceptibility to emotional triggers. (This relates to point 5 in the Key Takeaways). Start small, and gradually increase the challenge.

5. Meditate on Discomfort: Instead of avoiding discomfort, learn to tolerate it. This can build emotional resilience. Even brief moments of discomfort (e.g. holding a cold ice cube) can help strengthen your ability to manage challenging emotions. (Similar to Musashi's voluntary hardship)

6. Cultivate Stillness: Practice mindfulness or meditation to increase your self-awareness and capacity for calmness. Regular meditation helps train your mind to remain calm under pressure. (This relates to Musashi's practice of stillness and observation)

7. Reframe Your Thoughts: When you encounter frustrating situations, actively challenge your thoughts. Instead of focusing on what's unfair or irritating, consider alternative perspectives and focus on what you can control. (This relates to Marcus Aurelius' quote from the video)

8. Let Go of Expectations: Acknowledge that you cannot control everything. Reduce your expectations of how others should behave or how life should unfold. Acceptance is key to reducing anger. (This relates to point 4 in Key Takeaways)

9. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind and understanding towards yourself. Don't beat yourself up for feeling angry; acknowledge it, learn from it, and move on.

Important Note: These steps are based on interpretations of Musashi's philosophy as presented in the video. They are not a substitute for professional help if you struggle with severe anger issues. If you need more comprehensive strategies, consider seeking guidance from a therapist or counselor.

Let's apply the Miyamoto Musashi-inspired tools to the specific situation of your friend saying mean things:

1. Identify Your Trigger: You've already identified the trigger: your friend's mean comments. Now, analyze why these comments anger you. Is it because:

   • You value the friendship and feel hurt?
   • You feel disrespected or belittled?
   • You're insecure about something they're targeting?
   • You feel a need to defend yourself or prove them wrong?

2. Pause and Observe (Before Reacting): When your friend makes a mean comment, take a few deep breaths before responding. Mentally step back and observe your emotional reaction without judgment. Notice the physical sensations (e.g., tightening in your chest, clenching of your jaw).

3. Detach from Ego: Is your anger fueled by wounded pride or a need to assert your self-worth? If so, try to separate your emotional reaction from the comment's objective truth. Does their meanness invalidate you as a person? Likely not.

4. Practice a "Small Discomfort": Before interacting with your friend, consciously do something slightly uncomfortable but manageable. It could be holding a cold pack for a minute, listening to an unpleasant noise, or sitting in silence for a few minutes focusing on your breath. This helps build resilience and mental control before facing the potentially triggering interaction.

5. The "No Reaction" Strategy (Careful application): Consider the impact of not reacting immediately. A silent pause after a mean comment can be surprisingly powerful. It disrupts the usual pattern of back-and-forth, giving you space to choose a thoughtful response rather than reacting emotionally. It doesn't mean you ignore the issue entirely; just delay your reaction. This also helps you to avoid feeding your friend's need for conflict.

6. Reframe Your Thoughts: Instead of focusing on the negativity of the comment, try reframing it. Ask yourself:

   • What is the underlying reason my friend is saying this? (Might they be stressed, insecure, or projecting?)
   • What is the true impact of this comment? (Is it actually harmful to you or your self-worth, or is it simply words?)

7. Let Go of the Need for Control: You can't control your friend's behavior. Focus on what you can control—your reaction, your choice of response, and how you manage your emotions.

8. Self-Compassion: If you react angrily, forgive yourself. It's a learning process. It's normal to feel anger in these situations. The goal is to improve your emotional responses, not to eliminate your emotions entirely.

9. Communicate (Later): When you're both calm, address the issue directly. Use "I" statements to express how their words affect you, without accusing or blaming them. For example: "When you say things like that, I feel hurt and disrespected because..."

Remember, these strategies aren't about suppressing anger entirely but managing it more effectively. If this pattern of behavior continues and seriously damages your friendship, consider discussing the dynamic with your friend, or considering if the friendship is healthy for you.