How to Respond When Someone Belittles You: Confidence Tips

About this Video

• Video Title: How to Respond When Someone Belittles You: Confidence Tips
• Channel: Jefferson Fisher
• Speakers: Jefferson Fisher, Carol (listener)
• Duration: 00:16:50

Introduction

This video provides advice on how to respond confidently when someone belittles you. Jefferson Fisher offers three main strategies: making the belittler repeat their statement, asking questions about their intent, and using silence as a powerful response. He uses real-life examples, including a deposition training scenario, to illustrate these techniques.

Key Takeaways

1. Make them repeat it: Requesting a repetition disrupts the belittler's dopamine rush and can expose the negativity of their comment. The belittler may backtrack or rephrase.
2. Ask questions of intent: Shift the focus by asking questions like, "Did you intend to embarrass me?", forcing the belittler to confront their own behavior and potentially apologize.
3. Use silence: In situations where the belittler is unsafe or continues the behavior, silence can be a powerful and impactful response. It demonstrates emotional maturity and shows that you will not engage in negativity.