This podcast episode discusses the importance of handling disagreements in healthy dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships. Andrew, the speaker, argues against suppressing disagreement and instead advocates for using disagreements as opportunities to build deeper connection and trust, emphasizing the humanity within the dynamic.
Andrew uses his own six-and-a-half-year relationship with his submissive wife, Don, as a primary example. He highlights instances where Don's disagreements, when openly expressed, have led to a deeper understanding of their dynamic and ultimately strengthened their bond. He details a process they use, where they "press pause," creating space for open communication and identifying the underlying causes of conflict, leading to resolution and increased intimacy. He notes that this approach has resulted in their dynamic becoming "deeper, kinkier, and more fun" over time. He uses the example of Don speaking from her truth, even when it's messy, as strengthening their dynamic; conversely, her withholding truth builds resentment. He describes their ritual of pausing, laying down on their bed to hash things out, and then reaffirming their commitment through physical contact and gratitude.
