Make her work for it: don't just hand it over

About this video

• Video Title: Make her work for it: don't just hand it over
• Channel: PsycHacks
• Speakers: Dr Orion terban
• Duration: 00:09:45

Overview

This video discusses why relationships often fail by examining the concept of investment. The speaker argues that if a woman does not have to work or invest significantly to secure a relationship, she is less likely to value it and more likely to end it. The video suggests that men can foster more valuable and lasting relationships by not offering commitment and resources too easily, encouraging women to invest in the relationship first.

Key takeaways

• Disproportionate Breakups: Women end relationships and initiate divorces at significantly higher rates than men.
• Lack of Investment: A key, often unappreciated, reason for this disparity is that women typically don't have to work for the relationships they are in, while men often offer resources, attention, and commitment easily.
• Value of Effort: Similar to how the cost of an item can influence its perceived value, a woman's perception of a relationship's value is linked to the effort and investment she makes in securing and maintaining it.
• "Pot Commitment": Women who have invested significantly in a relationship (making them "pot committed") are less likely to discard it easily and more likely to work through difficulties.
• Catch and Release Strategy: For men seeking lasting relationships, the advice is to practice "Catch and Release" in the sexual marketplace, focusing on being attractive to many women and allowing women to make the initial investment, thus ensuring they value the relationship.