This video explains how to identify covert narcissists. The speaker highlights the inconsistency between their public persona and their private behavior as the primary indicator. Additional behavioral patterns are also discussed to help viewers recognize and manage these relationships.
Inconsistent Public and Private Personas: The most significant indicator of covert narcissism is a stark difference between how the individual presents themselves publicly versus privately. Publicly, they may appear ethical, supportive, or caring, while privately, they exhibit controlling, manipulative, or resentful behavior.
Fair-Weather Friendships: Covert narcissists often start relationships strongly but struggle to maintain them long-term. Their support diminishes when things don't go their way.
Inability for Self-Reflection: They lack self-awareness and avoid analytical or reflective thinking about their actions. They tend to blame others and readily adopt the victim role when confronted.
Conflict Avoidance and Lack of Empathy: Covert narcissists struggle to resolve conflicts constructively. They avoid receiving feedback and show no empathy towards others' feelings. They prioritize self-promotion and refuse to admit flaws.
The "Prop" Dynamic: Covert narcissists rely on others to support their public image and narrative. They become overtly narcissistic when this support is withdrawn.
