The look: speak with your eyes

About this video

• Video Title: The look: speak with your eyes
• Channel: PsycHacks
• Speakers: Dr. Orion Taban
• Duration: 10:42

Overview

This video, hosted by Dr. Orion Taban on PsycHacks, focuses on how men can effectively communicate sexual intent, particularly in initial interactions and on first dates. It addresses common male hesitations around expressing desire, such as fear of being perceived as "creepy" or an ambivalent relationship with their own sexuality. The video introduces "the look" as a non-verbal technique using prolonged, intentional eye contact to convey sexual interest respectfully and effectively, differentiating it from friendly interactions.

Key takeaways

• Communicate Sexual Intent: Men should communicate sexual intent early in interactions with women, as their goal is typically to initiate a sexual relationship, not just friendship.
• Address Sexual Ambivalence: Hiding sexual intent often stems from unresolved personal issues regarding one's own sexuality, which can be projected onto women. Accepting one's sexuality is crucial.
• "Creepiness" is Subjective: Behavior perceived as "creepy" is in the eye of the beholder and depends heavily on the woman's level of attraction. If a woman is attracted, behavior might be seen as charming; if not, it may be seen as creepy.
• The "Look" Technique: A non-verbal method to communicate sexual intent involves making unbroken eye contact for longer than usual, creating tension and signaling interest beyond friendship.
• Inner Openness and Sexual Focus: This technique involves an internal "opening," relaxing facial muscles, and mentally focusing on sexual content to subtly alter expression and gaze, signaling intent without explicit verbalization.
• Practice is Key: Developing the ability to effectively communicate sexual intent, especially through "the look," requires practice, potentially starting with mirror work and progressing to real-world interactions.