About this video

• Video Title: the process: how I manifested my boyfriend
• Channel: Jackie
• Speakers: Jackie
• Duration: 46:13

Overview

This video details the speaker's personal journey and process of manifesting a romantic partner. She shares the steps she took, including identifying authentic desires, creating a detailed list of desired traits, reprogramming limiting beliefs, using role models, and navigating the "tests" the universe presented. The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-worth and internal work in attracting the desired relationship.

Key takeaways

• Authenticity in Desire: It's crucial to manifest what you genuinely want, not what you think you should want, by looking beyond surface desires to their underlying essence (e.g., status vs. confidence).
• Detailed Partner List: Creating a specific list of desired traits in a partner, including desired feelings and relationship dynamics, is a key step in manifestation.
• Reprogramming Limiting Beliefs: Addressing and changing negative beliefs about oneself, relationships, and worthiness is essential for attracting and sustaining a desired partnership.
• Role Models and Tests: Finding role models who have overcome similar challenges and recognizing "tests" from the universe are vital for reinforcing the belief that desired outcomes are possible and for breaking old patterns.
• Focus on Self: The ultimate indicator of a healthy relationship is how you feel about yourself when you are with that person; it's about nurturing positive qualities within yourself.

The speaker describes "tests" as opportunities presented by the universe to see if she truly wants to break out of limiting patterns. She explains that when these tests are passed, the people she encounters or the situations she faces become "better and better," making it harder to revert to old ways.

Here are some specific "tests" she encountered:

• Past Relationships: Her ex-partner served as a significant test, challenging her self-worth daily. After their breakup, she dated someone who was physically attractive and seemed compatible on the surface, but lacked emotional depth and compatibility. Despite the temptation to settle, she recognized this wasn't aligned with her list and said "no."
• Addiction to Travel: To avoid forming long-term connections, she used travel as an escape. A test involved overcoming the urge to run away from settling down and choosing long-term connection instead.
• Aesthetic Separation: She had a habit of dressing differently from others, creating an aesthetic separation that she realized was a fear-based way of avoiding connection. This test involved accepting that she wasn't fundamentally different from others and that her perceived superiority was a defense mechanism.
• Tempting but Misaligned Connections: She encountered individuals who met many criteria on her list, but lacked crucial emotional depth or had manipulative tendencies reminiscent of past negative patterns. A significant test involved meeting someone with whom she had many synchronicities and shared interests, but who also exhibited manipulative communication styles. She recognized this as a "final exam" due to its closeness to what she desired and its familiarity with past negative dynamics, and ultimately refused to pursue it.

She navigated these tests by:

• Sticking to her List: She consistently refused to settle for anything less than what she had detailed in her partner list.
• Self-Worth: She focused on her internal self-worth, making it less about the other person and more about how she felt about herself in their presence.
• Saying "No": A crucial part of passing tests was firmly declining opportunities that did not align with her desires.
• Trusting Intuition: She learned to trust her gut feelings and recognize when a connection, despite surface appeal, was not right for her.