The Psychology Of First Impressions (What Women ACTUALLY Notice)

About this video

• Video Title: The Psychology Of First Impressions (What Women ACTUALLY Notice)
• Channel: Courtney Ryan
• Speakers: Courtney Ryan
• Duration: 00:07:37

Overview

This video by Courtney Ryan explores the key psychological factors women consider when forming first impressions of men. It breaks down what women notice beyond superficial aspects, focusing on energy, presence, style, grooming, speech, emotional warmth, manners, and consistency, explaining the psychological underpinnings of each and offering actionable advice for making positive first impressions.

Key takeaways

• Energy and Presence: Women perceive a man's energy and presence within seconds through non-verbal cues like posture, body language, and how they enter a room. Confidence, grounding, and being present are key, rather than being showy.
• Style Choices: Clothing signals intentionality, fit, and appropriateness for the occasion. Well-fitted, clean attire influences self-confidence (enclothed cognition) and conveys self-respect.
• Grooming and Detail: Small details like clean nails, fresh breath, and neat hair communicate discipline and self-respect, leading to positive assumptions about other qualities (halo effect).
• Speech: Tone, pace, and clarity are crucial. A steady, relaxed tone projects confidence, while mumbling or rushing can signal uncertainty. Slowing down and using pauses effectively can add weight to one's words.
• Emotional Warmth: Openness, curiosity, and friendliness make a man approachable. Smiling, relaxed expressions, and genuine interest (emotional contagion) create positive connections.
• Social Awareness and Manners: How a man treats others, including service staff, reveals character. Small gestures of kindness and respect (trait inference) indicate empathy and consideration.
• Consistency and Congruence: Aligning words, energy, and actions builds trust. Inconsistency between presentation and reality creates unease, while congruence leads to lasting positive impressions and trust.