This One Mistake Destroys Your Confidence

About this video

• Video Title: This One Mistake Destroys Your Confidence
• Channel: Charisma on Command
• Speakers: (None explicitly named in transcript, but likely the channel host)
• Duration: 00:05:12

Overview

This video explains how a common mistake—speaking with a constricted voice due to a fight-or-flight response—destroys confidence. It contrasts this with speaking from a place of alignment, supported by the diaphragm, which projects confidence and authenticity. The video offers a technique to regain this alignment when feeling nervous.

Key takeaways

• Constricted Voice Signals Lack of Confidence: When people feel nervous or stressed, their voice becomes unsupported by the diaphragm, leading to a constricted, "pinched" sound that makes them appear less confident and can cause others to distance themselves.
• Fight-or-Flight Response: Stress triggers a fight-or-flight mechanism that can cause a person to become physically and psychologically tense, leading them to "elevate" from a grounded state and speak with a constricted voice.
• Speaking from Alignment: True confidence in speaking comes from vocal support originating from the diaphragm. This creates a "straight line" of communication from the belly, through the chest and throat, to the eyes, projecting a sense of groundedness and authenticity.
• Regaining Alignment: When feeling nervous, it's important to pause, take a deep breath, feel your grounded position (seated or standing), and consciously connect your belly to your vocal cords before speaking to re-establish alignment and confidence.
• Benefits of Alignment: Speaking from alignment not only makes you appear more confident but also ensures that the words you choose are genuine and reflect your true feelings, leading to clearer and more authentic communication.