About this Video

• Video Title: When a Narcissist Sees You as Too Strong, They’ll Try This One Last Dirty Trick | Carl Jung
• Channel: Soul & Shadow
• Speakers: Narrator
• Duration: 00:09:11

Introduction

This video discusses how narcissists react when their victims become too strong and independent. It explores Carl Jung's theories on narcissistic behavior, particularly their use of manipulation tactics, including strength shaming and nostalgic manipulation, to regain control. The video also highlights the narcissist's final, most dangerous tactic: manufactured vulnerability, where they create crises to manipulate their victim into sacrificing their newfound strength.

Key Takeaways

• Narcissists fear their victim's strength: Their greatest fear isn't rejection, but their victim's psychological strength surpassing their own.
• Psychological projection warfare: When control is lost, narcissists use this to target their victim's newfound strengths, shaming them for qualities that have enabled their independence.
• Strength shaming: Narcissists criticize the very attributes (e.g., setting boundaries, finding their voice, building confidence) that empower their victim.
• Nostalgic manipulation: They reminisce about the past, focusing on the victim's more controllable state, attempting to pull them back into old, manipulative patterns.
• Manufactured vulnerability: The narcissist creates crises (health issues, financial problems, etc.) to elicit the victim's help, forcing a compromise of their hard-won boundaries and reasserting control. This often involves the narcissist creating the problems they then require help solving. The goal is to have the victim sacrifice their newfound strength to help the narcissist.
• Differentiated compassion: The key to protecting oneself is to maintain empathy without taking responsibility for solving the narcissist's problems. Focus on self-growth and identify if helping the narcissist is hindering one's personal growth journey.