WHY THE INFJ "LOVES" BEING BREADCRUMBED | ANXIOUS & AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT

About this Video

• Video Title: WHY THE INFJ "LOVES" BEING BREADCRUMBED | ANXIOUS & AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
• Channel: Wenzes
• Speakers: Wenzes (assumed, as it is the channel name and only one speaker is present in the transcript)
• Duration: 23:54

Introduction

This video explores why INFJs (a personality type) might be drawn to "breadcrumbing" (receiving minimal attention from others) and how this behavior can contribute to anxious attachment. The speaker argues that understanding this tendency can be a valuable tool for personal growth and improved relationships.

Key Takeaways

1. INFJs and Breadcrumbing: INFJs are often aware of being breadcrumbed, but their inherent desire to understand and solve puzzles can lead them to engage with this behavior. This is not necessarily a sign of weakness or codependency, but it can lead to these feelings.
2. The INFJ's Drive to Understand: INFJs excel at gathering small pieces of information and constructing a comprehensive picture of a person's emotional state and motivations. This skill, while helpful, can be misused in unhealthy relationships.
3. Unhealthy Dynamics: Engaging with breadcrumbing creates an unhealthy dynamic between the anxiously attached INFJ and the avoidant person. This often leads to the INFJ's self-sabotaging behavior.
4. Self-Care and Boundaries: The speaker emphasizes self-care and setting boundaries. INFJs need to prioritize their wellbeing, protect their energy, and not overextend themselves to "fix" others. The true help is in choosing themselves and demonstrating healthy self-love.
5. Inner Peace and Purpose: By focusing on creating inner peace and fulfilling their purpose, INFJs can break free from the cycle of breadcrumbing and develop healthier relationships. This involves setting clear boundaries and matching the energy given by others.